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Jaq Draco
08-09-2005, 12:29
Has anyone ever copped this line when growing up

Steve-O frm Jackass said it best in response to this
"It jsut hurts even worse when they say that"

How is it that the disappointment is worse than anger


and does anyone have any funny situations where the result from said situation has been this infamous line from parents.


for me it was stumbling home drunk at the age of 16 and being found naked on the floor of the shower, wishing to sleep there the whole night, because it was hot and nice.
mum the next day
im not angry just disappointed,
dad was proud
and i think mum was proud, but because of dad showing his pride in his young drunkard son, mum had to play bad cop

Vaya
08-09-2005, 13:06
Anger is the result of something unexpected. Disappointment is the result of a premeditated thing. Your parents had already decided you were smart enough to not do something, and then you did it anyway.

This hurts more, because you feel like you failed to learn an important lesson while growing up. A lesson everybody else apparently had already learned. Ergo, you feel stupid.

rammo_73
08-09-2005, 13:37
Man, I think it hurts worse because you know that it hurts them too and because you think you let them down. I know when I used to get caught with naughty mags my dad said "Your getting to the age where I should expect this to happen. But I'm dissapointed in you because this is wrong, what do you think God thinks about it?" also he throws in "That's not what real women are like". I was hurt by the whole "this is threatening your Christianity" bit for a while...but soon realized there is much worse that I could be doing.

Also...I know that's not what "real women are like" that's why I get pornos :D

Wiseman
08-09-2005, 13:40
JD is that what ya dad say when your mum gave birth to you, "im not angry,m just dissapointed";)

Wraith
08-09-2005, 14:46
They just use that line to mask their anger, what they really mean is rather than shout and go ape at you they are going to come up with a really cold calculated way of punishing you.

If they weren't angry they wouldn't say anything...

The boyz
08-09-2005, 14:57
Yeah I must admit I'd rather be shouted at and called all the names under the sun, than to have my parents say "I am very dissapointed in you Peter". Its also the way they say it in that voice, that is'nt angry or loud, but just said at their normal tone of voice but you can tell they are very angry and annoyed.

Luke
08-09-2005, 15:00
the only time my old man was proud of me was when i rolled in home drunk. the ******.

my mum just thought it was funny. these days i come home high all the time and they dont care anymore :D


they are dissapointed i dont have a full time job in a factory 56 hours a week.......

TeddyC
08-09-2005, 15:19
Theres a recurring theme here... im rolling with it!

I came in from a party once pretty high.... i got the 'not angry' talk from mother... dad kept quiet till mum had gone to bed and told me that they used to do it all the time.

I think now my mum expects me to be in nor earlier than 2am.... ive stopped getting the guilt trip at the weekend... now its just 'dont do injuring yourself again' and 'be careful of those bosses of yours!' (long boring story)

Snoozer
08-09-2005, 16:01
Well I'm an expert at acting sober when drunk as hell, (the first thing you do is try to move as little as possible in the company of parents :p) then I go to my room and pass out

Oh and I have never gotten the "I'm disappointed in you" speech.

:D

Luke
08-09-2005, 16:03
my olds are cool with whatever chemicals i pump into my body, as long as i pay my way. and have no fun doing it :(

The boyz
08-09-2005, 16:11
Well I'm an expert at acting sober when drunk as hell, (the first thing you do is try to move as little as possible in the company of parents :p) then I go to my room and pass out:D


Yeah thats what I trie to do, but I think my Dad gets suspicious when I sit there stirring a cup of tea for ten minutes, then sit there for about fifteen minutes trying to roll up a smoke. The biggest give away for me though is my speech gets worse and worse and I start to just speak dribble and all the sentences roll into one. Then when I do move I end up just knocking everything over or collapsing against the wall.

But I tend not to get the "I am very dissapointed" speech for being drunk. I only get it if I have done something totally stupid.

Scabby
08-09-2005, 16:50
While working at college one summer my boss hired this trouble making guy on as a pity case. Dude was pretty much on the last nerve of the college officials so this was his last chance. When my boss finally fired him he said to him, "I hired you on thinking you'd make me proud... and you didn't" :eek: Coming from my quaker boss that was pretty harsh. Dude deserved it though.

Shadowheart
08-09-2005, 17:21
It's a dirty underhand trick to hurt someone, like most things people say and do to others. There's so many nice ways to say such dreadful things.

I've gotten such phrases from my parents (especially my mom) on occasion, even though I don't drink. However, I think I was perforce a few steps ahead of them in the process of recognising that they were human too. It hurts you as a kid to see your parents have ugly, but perfectly human, shortcomings, but I think the same is true for parents who see their illusions about their children shattered.

Crazy Harborc
08-09-2005, 18:47
The day will come when you will be willing to give almost anything to be able to have your parents lecture you one more time.

Be glad they care and are there/here to tell you so. Then hug them after they do.

Wraith
08-09-2005, 19:09
Wow, now there's some sticky sentiment, I'm sure everyone glosses over their parents faults when they are feeling vulnerable as an adult.

Crazy Harborc
08-09-2005, 20:16
Oh.........I remember their faults and mine too. As a parent, I tried hard not to repeat the mistakes of my parents. When it was true and my daughters were in their teens.........I did say words as "what you did/said/etc hurt me/disapointed me etc."

Now as a grandparent, from time to time I can "see" my wife on myself in the parenting of our daughters (THEY are mothers now) ;)

Geetarman
08-09-2005, 21:49
The day will come when you will be willing to give almost anything to be able to have your parents lecture you one more time.

Be glad they care and are there/here to tell you so. Then hug them after they do.

Crazy speaks some wise words.

And I got the "I'm not angry" phrase a few times, but I always knew why, and it did make me realise that I wasn't acting like a sensible adult, sobers you up a bit I think when you realise that your parents aren't necessarily angry with you just hurt or let down because they pin all their hopes and dreams on you and then you act like a fool.

Gman

Crazy Harborc
08-09-2005, 22:05
In time, most/all of you WILL "become" your parents or at least one of them. It WILL happen. Been there done that and still do. I admit it's a LOT of fun when I know my daughters are realizing it's them doing it now. :D

The Dragon Reborn
09-09-2005, 05:56
you are on cool old man, shoot... I dont live at home anymore and I have to admit i miss my parents, kinda sucks

Alco Engineer
09-09-2005, 06:07
I rekon. I'm 1500kms away from mine now. I used to be 250. that was enouhg to see them on a weekend if I wanted. Now I see them twice a year if I'm lucky.